This article is a follow-up to the No Complaints message. As promised, here is a tool to help you get out of the complaint cycle. First, remember that complaining comes from a sense of powerlessness. When in power, there is no need to complain, there is only the next right action to take. We gripe… Continue Reading
Category Archives: Happiness
No Complaints
What would life be like if you had nothing to complain about? Pretty amazing, right? Most of us have problems that cause some grief, and life can throw some interesting challenges our way. Complaining about them is an indication that we are looking for someone or something to rescue us. But! What if we can… Continue Reading
Stop Trying to Be Happy!
“The word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” — Carl Jung Have you ever wondered why there are so many quotes, posters, articles and books focused on the pursuit of happiness, yet so many people still in search of it? Perhaps this is because happiness is not the answer.… Continue Reading
Help for the Holiday Crazies – December 2018
Does your family drive you crazy sometimes? Does the holiday season make it worse? For many, the season usually means more time with family. Holiday gatherings are typically portrayed as happy times filled with laughter and love. But what if your experience doesn’t meet those ideals? What if the love you feel for your family… Continue Reading
4T Communication
“The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” – George Bernard Shaw Conversations go well – or not – depending on Four Ts: tone, timing, topic, total. With co-workers, bosses, family, friends, and especially significant others, these things can make or break. They either bring you together, OR, kill… Continue Reading
Get Out of Your Own Way: Dealing with Covert Self-Sabotage
No one intentionally tries to fail, but many unconsciously sabotage their happiness and success. It is easy to see obvious ways we do this, such as doing our job poorly, showing up late or not at all, struggling with addiction to drugs/alcohol, and relationship infidelity. However, covert sabotage slips under the radar and causes just… Continue Reading
GOBOM: A Winning Strategy
I recently saw a short video of Steve Jobs that was going around LinkedIn. Jobs said most people don’t get what they want because they never ask. He said that asking was the basis of his own success, and it is what separates the people who do things from those who just dream about them.… Continue Reading
Personal Power
There is a lot of talk these days about personal power. Given society’s emphasis on success and material gain, power is often considered to be the ability to get ahead, make money, achieve a goal, etc. Mostly our interpretation is business-based or success-based. Today, I offer a broader interpretation: true power is based in the… Continue Reading
Power to Change
How can I fix this problem? How can I make the issue (the pain) go away? Tell me what to do! These are common questions I hear from clients who have identified something they want to change, such as bad habits, core patterns, or unconscious fears. “Now that I see it,” they ask, “how can… Continue Reading
Heart
With Valentine’s Day on the way, I thought it would be interesting to discuss matters of the heart. Valentine’s is traditionally about the celebration of romantic love, a wonderful human kind of love. Today, I wish to give this celebration new meaning by looking at it from a different angle, that of higher love, and… Continue Reading
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