I have five specialty areas that cover a lot of ground:
- Career Management
- Spiritual Journey
Relationships are our greatest teachers. They help us to grow, become strong, be the best we can be, by showing us where we need to change. There’s a saying, “Relationships are like pouring Miracle Grow on our character defects.” This is good news! How can we grow if we don’t know what needs to change?
Couples, singles, work situations, friends and family — it’s all the same. Our internal beliefs, fears, and feelings guide our external actions, experiences, and results. And they guide the success or failure of the relationships we have with others. Our inner distortions create the pain we experience, and the removal of those distortions not only helps us to find our true self, it results in a life of joy, peace and powerful connections.
- Dating: I teach single people how not to be single anymore by showing them how to date successfully and make better choices in the partners they pick.
- Couples: I designed a powerful program that helps couples improve their communication and connection, leading to greater satisfaction and deeper love.
- Divorce: Sometimes the right thing to do is move on. Coming to that conclusion, going through the process, and picking up the pieces to create a new life often requires guidance and support.
- Work: Difficult bosses, challenging co-workers, uncooperative employees – learning to work through difficult situations at work is part of life and an opportunity for growth.
My motto is, “The quality of our lives is directly related to the quality of our relationships.” And, what determines the quality of our relationships? The quality of our relationship with ourselves. You must be good with yourself before you can be good with others.
Managing your career can be a daunting task. While there are many aspects to professional development, one of most important first steps to undertake is determining your personal brand. Aligning your work around your strengths, talents, personality, needs, and interests are key to establishing a strong brand reputation. Beyond that, leadership competencies must be explored to identify areas of strength as well as areas for improvement. Finally, having a clear vision and strategy for your future as well as building a network of professional relationships both internal and external to your company are key to getting ahead.
Examples of Leadership Competencies: Communication — Presence — Courage — Integrity — Character — Responsibility — Confidence — Accountability — Business Acumen — Delegation — Emotional Maturity — Interpersonal Effectiveness — Decisioning Ability
For those on a path to health, happiness, success, and wholeness, a clear connection with one’s Higher Power is an essential component to success. However, we cannot ascend beyond our current definition of that Higher Power. In other words, to rise higher in inner power and awareness, we must adjust our understanding – of ourselves, life and God. For many, the religions they once knew, those of their upbringing, are somehow not as helpful or fulfilling as they once were. This is an indication of that need for new understanding and new awareness. With a little guidance, it is possible to find a new path, new growth, new joy.
I work with people in a number of 12-Step programs (AA, OA, SLAA, CODA, etc.) to help support, ease, and facilitate the recovery process. My Awareness Approach is a perfect companion to the 12-Step way of life, helping people move more quickly and powerfully through the difficult task of sobriety.
As a graduate of 12-Step myself, I have a deep respect for what my clients are going through and first-hand knowledge of how to help them achieve their goals. I believe that recovery can be an amazing opportunity for spiritual growth and access to a whole new and magnificent life.
NOTE: Though many of my clients are in a 12-Step program, I am aware that it is not for everyone. I also work successfully with people in recovery who prefer not to participate.
Clients often come to me feeling stuck, lost, losing hope and wondering, “Is this all there is? And, who am I, really?” Many people, at some point in their lives, find themselves feeling empty, depressed, confused, unreal, stuck, unhappy and yearning for something more. I see this is an important call from our souls to go in search of our authentic self.
Sometimes this happens at work when a job or career is no longer satisfying. Sometimes the discontent shows up at home, in a difficult love relationship, or in difficulties finding someone to love. Either way, there is a real you that’s trying to surface.
To paraphrase Carl Jung, one of the fathers of modern psychology: we spend the first thirty-five years of life being socialized and the remainder of life undoing that. This “undoing” is the most important, most spiritual journey we can take. True freedom and joy in life come from living from that authentic self. I help people bridge the gap between their old, “influenced” self to their new, authentic self and a new, amazing life.
My Awareness Approach combines practical, personal, and spiritual aspects to help clients powerfully achieve inner awareness, soul growth, and wholeness.
1. Practical – Having spent many years in the corporate world, I take a very practical approach to the journey of personal growth. There are everyday, on-the-court things you need to do to expand your awareness and improve your life. This is an important starting point.
2. Personal – Most of the obstacles to having an awesome, soul-satisfying life are internal. I help my clients explore such things as personal myths, blocking beliefs, and unproductive thought and behavior patterns so they can clear the space from which their authentic self can arise. This is key to the unfolding of a life worth living.
3. Spiritual – I believe that the foundation for a profound and rewarding life experience is based on spiritual faith and knowing one’s God (or whatever you choose to call that Higher Power). This helps us find our place and purpose in the world. In the almost 20 years I have been coaching and counseling others, my experience has shown that spiritual direction is the most important, and often the most overlooked, aspect to healing, personal growth and a powerful life.